My Truth

Good morning, 

Ok, so here’s a crazy thought… what if I chose this life? What if you chose the life you’re living?

I 100% believe that I am a spirit having a natural (physical) experience; that I am living the life I’m living for a reason and that once I die, it won’t be the end of my soul’s journey (see how I avoid saying we…don’t want to freak you out by making you part of MY TRUTH). I do hope that you also identify with at least some part of my belief; I’d hate to think that anyone is living a purposeless life or feel that they don’t matter.

This week I’d like you to ponder this idea of having chosen this life; imagining yourself chilling with God and discussing the pros and cons of it all. Imagine that your soul knew all there was to know about your life (beginning and ending), then you and God both decided that you were more than capable of completing this assignment… I find that such an interesting and mind blowing thought, that before earth, I sat there and said;” by the way Lord, I’ll take the Busie assignment. I’m sure I’m more than capable to complete it.”

All I’m asking you is to imagine yourself part of the whole of existence. That the universe is rigged and conspires to fulfill your personal purpose according to the assignment you chose and the contract you signed. So that when tough times come you can say to yourself;” I’m more than capable to handle this, I chose this life dammit!”

You may or may not believe in God (your truth), but I believe that we are all programed to cope with the realities of our lives and that we are on this earth to create each earthly experience, just like our maker is a creator. So don’t let anyone freak you out into their truth…LIVE YOUR OWN TRUTH. We’re all in essence connected and creators, but we are on different missions.

 

Love, light and purpose,

Busie

Conversations with one's self

Hello Sunshine,

This is with sincere hope that you are well. This week I wanted to share with you one of the things I think I know. That is...

The most important thing in the whole world in shaping one’s life- in my humble opinion-is the conversations one has with one’s self. If you want to change something about your life; your situation, you need to change the conversation you have with yourself. If you were thinking; “I’m not smart enough”, “I’m too old to change”, and “I’m just not meant to do it”.

You need to start saying; “I’m smart enough”, “I’m can do it”, “I’m within my purpose”

This week I want to challenge you to change the story you tell yourself. Allow your narrative to change according to your wishes and dreams of how you want your life to be.

 

"Unless you are prepared to give up something valuable you will never be able to truly change at all, because you'll be forever in the control of things you can't give up." –Andy Law

"Change is hard because people overestimate the value of what they have—and underestimate the value of what they may gain by giving that up." -James Belasco and Ralph Stayer

Here's to having empowering and positive conversations.

 

love, light and more love

 

Busie

Daring greatly

Hellooo, anybody there?

Before anything else, I hope you had a pleasant weekend and that you started this week on a positive note. Sooo you might have noticed that this mail is a few hours late (yes, I said hours), however, I had a bad case of self-pity and a defeatist  mentality…could have used some motivation myself this morning.

Now that you know my dirty secret, I’d like to share with you a quote that has given me ‘aha’ moments upon ‘aha’ moments. This is also to let you know (and remind myself) that it’s ok to show vulnerability when called upon and not let shame hold us hostage with lies. As Brene says (totally love this woman, a lil’ bit more everyday);”vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage”. Don't let shame talk you out of trying.

So don’t be afraid to not only dare, but to dare greatly this week.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.

 

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."

-Theodore Roosevelt

Here’s to another week!

Love,

ME

Master thy self

Rise and Shine!,

I had a lovely weekend and it is my sincere hope that yours was good as well.

I just have a couple of quotes that I received that got me thinking about how in life we always have a choice in our reactions. Often times, when we are disappointed we take that as our cue to be sad, grumpy or just plain unpleasant to be around.

So whatever expectations were not met last week or this week, choose to be in a good space anyway and just be aware of your expectations of situations and other people. My brother used to say to me that whatever situation you’re in, the only control you have is not over the other person, but over your own self (Nothing more, nothing less).

Our best successes often come after our greatest disappointments.

-Henry Ward Beecher

Never succumb to the  temptation of bitterness.

-Martin Luther King Jr.

Healing does not mean going back to the way things were before,

But rather allowing what is now to move us closer to God.

-Ram Dass

#ISawGodToday…

P.S. challenge: try to find something in your day that reminds you that God is in every moment…try this for the…wait for it…WHOLE WEEK! J

Joy, love and being in the moment,

Busie

Being in the Moment

Morning!

I would love to tell you about my “lovely” weekend, but you and I would be disappointed. After having found my car broken into, the setting was not for a particularly marvelous time. So I’m genuinely hoping that you had an enjoyable weekend without any police or insurance claims in sight.

However, my ordeal at the beginning of my weekend brought to the fore that half the time I’m not present in each moment as it unfolds. Had I been present, maybe I’d have thought to leave my Garmin at home (since I wasn’t using it) and possibly take my surroundings into account and park closer to where the car guards were. I rush through every moment just wanting to get to the next and not even being conscious of that very next*in case you haven’t noticed, I’m trying to use more “I” instead of “we”…trying to keep myself accountable and present*

So I urge you-and myself of course- to be in the NOW this week; to allow yourself to take in life as it happens and not in hindsight. We miss the detail when we are unconscious to life as it unfolds.

The point of power is always in the present moment.
-Louise L. Hay

The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.
-Abraham Maslow

History is more or less bunk. It’s tradition. We don’t want tradition. We want to live in the present and the only history that’s worth a tinker’s damn is the history we make today.

-Henry Ford

Today it is not nearly enough to be a saint, but we must have the saintliness demanded by the present moment, a new saintliness, itself also without precedent.

-Simone Weil

Love,

Busie M

Life without limits

Hello, Hi

Coming from a weekend that wasn’t too shabby, I’m really hoping that you had a great one. Today I just wanted to tell you about a man called Nick Vujicic, who was born without arms or legs. Ok, so I had a moment with this…imagine not having any limbs! I was horrified. Listening to him speak, I understood why he attempted suicide at age 10 (you may or may not be aware of this, but kids can be the biggest ‘meanies’). He swims, has written a book, and has a double degree. Ok, you get the point.

I want you to give yourself some time to just watch a clip or two on YouTube, or just Google him. What I got from his story was to first accept (not necessarily like) your situation and the way you are, and then proceed to live a life without limits.

Don’t let anyone (society) tell you that you can’t do something, whether it’s because of your size, gender or colour of your skin. I AM here for a reason, I may not be certain of what that is right this moment, but I know that I AM; which makes me certain that you have a purpose in this life (whether you know it or not). So this week, in your normal routine, do the little things you always tell yourself you can’t do (wear those 10 inch heels, approach your manager about that raise or...err…anything else I might have missed).

The privilege of a life time is being who you are.
-Joseph Campbell

Fall seven times, stand up eight.

–Japanese Proverb

 Impossible is a word to be found only in the dictionary of fools.
-Napoleon Bonaparte

Follow your dreams, believe in yourself and don't give up.
-Rachel Corrie

 

Love, Light and Courage,
Busie

Double-edged sword: Gratitude and Joy

Morning!

 It’s a cold day in the Mother city today, so I hope your dressed accordingly to the weather in your corner of the world.

Today I want to share with you an ‘aha’ moment I had on gratitude during the weekend. What I never realised was how Gratitude is not just an attitude, but a practice. People just don’t have ‘an attitude of gratitude’, they work on it. They actively practice gratitude (sooo obvious now why it’s so hard to stay grateful).

Well my main point is that in order to experience Joy and lean into those moments, one needs to have gratitude. When things are going great, don’t be afraid to immerse yourself in joyful moments by being grateful (joy can be so difficult at times *whew!*). So don’t ‘dress rehearse tragedy in order to beat vulnerability to the punch’ (says Brene), for when the things that bring us joy are gone, it won’t hurt any less. 

Go on, show gratitude and just give yourself to joy this week.

 Joy and gratitude go hand in hand. We are not grateful because we’re happy, rather we’re happy because we’re grateful.

-Betty Mahalik

 “We become what we repeatedly do.”
―Sean Covey    

 

 “The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.”
― Samuel Johnson

 

Regards,

Busie

You are enough

Morning,

I had a lovely weekend with my people and got more people from that… (and here I thought I had a hard time making friends). So I do sincerely hope that you enjoyed youth day and father’s day to the fullest.

What I’d like to share with you is that- just in case you weren’t aware- You. Are. Enough. When you start to doubt yourself, wondering if you’re good enough to do what you do, to be with the people you’re with; whether you’re skinny enough, pretty enough or smart enough, be reminded this week that the person you are is ENOUGH.

What disqualifies you is not your flaws or shortcomings, but your attitude concerning them. Start by accepting yourself as you are and when those thoughts of self-doubt creep in, tell yourself that you’re good enough. Don’t limit yourself this week and please, dare to be more.

They said:

When people believe in themselves they have the first secret of success.

~Norman Vincent Peale

 Flaws and all, you are the makers original. Don’t let anyone make you feel or treat you like a cheap knock off.

 –Busie Nxazonke

 Don't you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are.

~Jo Blackwell-Preston

 

Another thing: Good friend of mine won the Cape Town leg of the SABC Sports Presenter Search. *thumbs up for daring to be more*

 

Love, light and Compassion

Busie

Don't sweat the small stuff

Hello sunshine,

 It’s been a hectic week and weekend, and I hope yours was well spent as well.

I came across a list of things to do in order to avoid minding the small stuff. However, I connected with just one or two out of the whole list…and that is; “Make peace with imperfection”

Accept yourself as you are-and accept what you have and what you don’t have. More is not always better. As well as; Ask yourself the question: “Will this mater a year from now?”

So this week, learn to not sweat the small stuff. Focus on more important things, like spending time with loved ones and showing appreciation and gratitude to everyone around you.

The struggle ends when the gratitude begins.

-Neale Donald Walsch

Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts, cause your mind to dwell on peace and joy.

-Ernest Holmes

 

Regards,

Busie

Everyday a special occassion

Hello Friend,

 

Leaving an amazing weekend behind us, I hope that you experienced the same wonder and saw God’s grace in all that surrounded you.

 

I’d like to encourage you this morning to look at every single day as if it was a special occasion. Some didn’t see past this weekend and here we are, given yet another chance to get in line with our purpose; send love notes to our family and friends; do the right thing by others, forgive, laugh and say “I’m sorry”.

 

Take a challenge with me this week, and look yourself in the mirror every morning and say; “I’m divinely inspired and victoriously anointed; I matter and I’m living within my purpose”

Note your feeling and emotions through the week and Let me know how it goes…

when life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.
-Unknown

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, define yourself.
-Harvey Fierstein

 
 

Love, light and Joy

 Busie